S-Anon

What Is S-Anon?

S-Anon is a twelve-step support group for individuals who have been affected by someone else’s sex addiction (sometimes called “sexaholism”).

It provides a safe, confidential environment where members can share their experiences, gain support, and work toward personal healing.

Based on the principles of the 12-step program (originally conceived by Alcoholics Anonymous), S-Anon encourages participants to focus on their recovery by addressing the emotional impacts of their loved one’s sexual addiction.

S-Anon is open to anyone who has been impacted by a loved one’s addictive sexual behaviors, offering hope, guidance, and a path toward healthier relationships and self-care.

Why Is It Called S-Anon?

The name “S-Anon” is short for “Sex Addiction Anonymous.” Calling it S-Anon helps differentiate it from the support group sex addicts Anonymous (SAA), which is specifically for recovering sex addicts themselves (similar to Al-Anon versus Alcoholics Anonymous).

More specifically, the name is broken down as follows:

• The “S” stands for sex addiction, highlighting the group’s focus on helping people who are affected by a loved one’s addictive sexual behaviors.
• The “Anon” stands for anonymity, which is a key part of the program. Anonymity creates a safe environment so members can share their experiences without fear of judgment or their identity being revealed.

The name S-Anon reflects the group’s mission to support people dealing with the impact of sex addiction while providing a safe, supportive community.

Who Can Benefit from S-Anon?

S-Anon is for anyone whose life has been affected by a loved one’s sex addiction. This includes spouses, partners, family members, and close friends of sexaholics.

The program provides a supportive space for individuals dealing with the emotional and relational challenges that can arise from this situation.

Many participants face challenges such as:

• Feeling betrayed after discovering a partner’s infidelity or hidden behavior
• Struggling to rebuild trust in a family member who has repeatedly lied or broken promises
• Experiencing embarrassment or shame when friends or extended family notice patterns of destructive behavior in the sex addict
• Feeling isolated because they can’t openly discuss their loved one’s addiction with friends or family
• Trying to maintain a friendship with someone whose compulsive behavior creates awkward or damaging situations
• Feeling guilt or frustration when enabling a loved one’s behavior, such as covering up for them or avoiding conflict
• Worrying about the impact of the addiction on children or other family members

S-Anon provides understanding, tools, and a community of people who have faced similar situations, helping participants find hope and healing.

What Is S-Ateen?

S-Ateen is a program designed specifically for teenagers who are impacted by the sex addiction of a family member or loved one. Like S-Anon, it follows the 12-step principles, but the materials and discussions are carefully tailored to be age-appropriate and relevant to teens.

The program offers a safe and supportive environment where young people can share their feelings, learn healthy coping skills, and focus on their emotional well-being.

How S-Ateen Protects and Supports Teens

S-Ateen meetings are facilitated with a strong emphasis on age-appropriateness and sensitivity to teens’ developmental needs. Topics are handled carefully, ensuring that discussions are appropriate for their maturity level while still addressing their concerns.

Parents can feel confident knowing that S-Ateen provides a respectful, understanding space for their teens to process their emotions and challenges.

S-Ateen also emphasizes the importance of anonymity and confidentiality, allowing teens to feel safe and supported while connecting with peers who understand what they are going through.

The program empowers young people to build resilience and develop tools for navigating difficult family dynamics, setting them on a path toward emotional health and self-confidence.

Teens interested in joining S-Ateen can check with their local S-Anon groups or visit the S-Anon website to find available resources and meetings.

How Does S-Anon Work?

S-Anon provides a structured approach to support and healing through its foundation in the 12-step principles. These principles encourage S-Anon members to focus on their own recovery by fostering self-awareness, accountability, and emotional growth.

Types of S-Anon Meetings

S-Anon meetings are safe, confidential spaces where members can share their experiences and gain insight from others who understand what they are going through.

Meetings are offered in various formats to accommodate different needs:

• In-person meetings: Held locally, providing face-to-face connection and support.
• Virtual meetings: Accessible online, offering flexibility for those unable to attend in person.
• Hybrid meetings: A combination of in-person and virtual participation, allowing members to join in the way that works best for them.

Anonymity and Mutual Support

Anonymity is a critical part of S-Anon. It ensures that what is shared in meetings remains confidential, creating an environment of trust and respect.

Anonymity allows S-Anon members to speak openly about their emotions and common problems without fear of judgment or exposure.

S-Anon is also built on mutual support. Participants share their experiences, listen to others, and find strength in the shared journey toward healing.

Everyone is encouraged to take what they need from the meetings and contribute in ways that feel comfortable for them.

How Can I Attend an S-Anon Meeting?

Attending an S-Anon meeting is simple and designed to be welcoming for newcomers. Meetings are available in various formats to make participation as accessible as possible.

Here’s how you can get started:

• Visit the S-Anon Website: The official S-Anon website provides a meeting locator tool to help you find in-person, virtual, or hybrid meetings near you.
• Contact Local Groups: If you know of a local S-Anon group, reach out directly for details about meeting times and locations.
• Explore Virtual Options: For those unable to attend in person, many online meetings are available, offering flexibility and convenience.

S-Anon meetings are safe, supportive spaces where you can share your experiences or simply listen to others.

What to Expect at S-Anon Meetings

S-Anon meetings typically last about 60 to 90 minutes (depending on the group). Some meetings may be shorter or longer, but the standard format ensures enough time for participation while respecting participants’ schedules.

Meetings typically involve readings from S-Anon literature, personal sharing, and discussions about recovery.

You don’t need to speak if you’re not ready, and you’re welcome to attend as many meetings as you need.

If you’re feeling nervous, some helpful tips for a newcomer might include:

• Keep an Open Mind: Everyone’s journey is unique, and it’s okay to take your time finding what works for you.
• Be Patient: Healing is a process, and S-Anon provides ongoing support for your recovery.
• Reach Out: Many meetings offer opportunities to connect with other members after the session if you have questions or need additional support.

Attending your first meeting can feel like a big step, but it’s an important move toward finding healing for yourself.

Benefits of S-Anon

Participating in S-Anon offers many benefits for those navigating the challenges of a loved one’s sex addiction. S-Anon offers tools and emotional support to help members regain control over their lives and focus on their healing journey.

S-Anon is not just about coping with the effects of addiction—it’s about rediscovering your own strength and creating a more balanced, fulfilling life.

Some benefits of S-Anon include:

• Finding a safe space to share feelings without fear of judgment
• Gaining tools to set and maintain healthy boundaries
• Reducing feelings of isolation by connecting with others who understand
• Learning to focus on personal recovery and emotional well-being
• Building healthier relationships with loved ones
• Developing a sense of hope and empowerment for the future

How to Join an S-Anon Meeting

If you’re having a hard time dealing with a loved one’s addiction to sex, attending an S-Anon meeting can be an important first step toward finding support and healing.

The process to join is simple, and there are options to fit different schedules and needs. Here are a few tips for getting started:

• Search for a Meeting: Visit the S-Anon website to find in-person, virtual, or hybrid meetings in your area. The meeting directory is easy to use and offers details about how to join.
• Reach Out for Information: If you have questions, many local groups have contact information. Don’t hesitate to ask for help understanding the process.
• Try Different Formats: If attending in person feels overwhelming, consider starting with a virtual meeting. Many people find this a comfortable way to ease into the program.
• Show Up When You’re Ready: You don’t need to prepare anything or meet any requirements to attend. Just come as you are.

Joining an S-Anon meeting can provide the connection and guidance you need to navigate the challenges of sex addiction’s impact on your life. The hardest step is often the first one, but it can also be the most rewarding.

Get Help for Sex Addiction

If your loved one is interested in getting treatment for their sex addiction, there are tools available to help you locate therapists and other supportive resources in your area. You can use SAMHSA’s online treatment locator or visit our Find Treatment Help page to learn about available options.